Though it seems we're living in a dystopian film, people still want to have a social life. Dating can be a complicated dance anyway, and with the current state of affairs it can seem downright frightening. Since many come to me for dating advice in general, I thought this would be of some help.
Picture it: you're sitting alone together (because you have to) in a quiet hole-in-the-wall restaurant that has the best darn pancakes this side of the equator, and you lean in close...closer...cloooo-ser...because you just can't hear your date from 6 feet away (or through their face shield) as they whisper sweet nothings to you.
Meanwhile, back in reality...
Dating can actually be fun. Yes, even during a pandemic.
Please note this is not intended to be medical advice. If you have a medical question please ask your medical doctor.
I'd of course be remiss if I didn't say use common sense and be safe. So, let's get that out of the way first. There, I've said it.
Now let's make this fun.
Here are the tips that will help you survive dating in the pandemic. (Hey, at least it's not a dating pandemic!) Here you go...
1. Find out straight away whether you're into the same types of meetings. This will save you time and energy. Some are only comfortable with video dates while others are okay with picking up takeout and having a picnic in the park. Others are cool with actually going somewhere, anywhere that's open and serving the patrons. Make sure you're on the same meeting-up page so to speak.
2. Embrace the mask. Since face coverings are required in most public places now, it's only understandable that you (and your date) will likely want to wear yours. Maybe you're more lax about the mask rule, but remember that everyone's different and they might feel more comfortable wearing one. Don't be offended if they ask you to wear one. Depending on the law and sometimes on personal preference, masks are becoming the new norm in many places.
3. Use common sense. Depending on the research (which seems to change often) there's varying ways we can end up catching this virus. Contact with and/or near others who have it whether symptomatic or not and contact with contaminated surfaces seems to be the general consensus. Don't go around licking frozen doorknobs.
4. Remember, empathy is a virtue. You'll want to be understanding if your date is a bit skittish when it comes to that goodnight kiss. For example, one of our dear friends recently went to a gender reveal party for a pregnant friend at which about 15 other guests also attended. No one even kissed anyone. Everyone wore masks but not the whole time. Our friend's infant became fussy during the party so she decided to put the baby down for a nap with the pregnant friend's toddler. As it turned out, that toddler was carrying COVID-19 so my friend's baby caught it too...when they got home from the party, my friend and her kids were all exhausted so they all laid down for a nap together. Then dad came home and since he was tired too, he crawled in for the nap as well. Then grandma came over for dinner and everyone gave grandma a great big hug... You can see where this is going, right?
5. Don't be offended if they aren't comfortable with physical contact. Just as I mentioned above, some are more skittish than others. Back in the stone age when I was young, our mothers would tell us that premarital intimacy, no matter how much we wanted to do it, was bad luck...we'd ultimately lose the guy, our reputations and the only thing we'd gain from it would be a baby and the respective weight from said baby. Nowadays though, seems like anything goes. But some folks are nervous about being in close contact, let alone close proximity, to their date. On the flip side, they shouldn't be offended if you whip out the sanitizer and spray..a lot. Everyone has their idea of what feels right to them.
6. If you're both nervous, consider a virtual date for the 1st meet. There's something to be said for being in the comfort of your home. As long as you're in a comfortable space you can enjoy a nice "dinner & a movie" type date anytime, anyplace. It also lets you get to know someone in a safe way. (This is actually fun too if you're in a long distance relationship.)
Once you're both comfortable, you can proceed with your date! Enjoy... xo