Question Submitted: What is my Divine Mission / Life Purpose? I'm worried about my Twin Flame.

I get this one a lot, thanks for submitting this question. There are thousands - no, make that missions - of schools of thought on this subject. We all desire to enjoy a meaningful life. But what are we exactly doing here? 

I mean, for the most part we spend our lives just trying to survive and exist while living a decent life and doing reasonably decent things to assist others for the Greater Good, and when we are lucky we find romantic love in the process. But what exactly are we doing here anyway?

I can tell you my personal thoughts. Based on my own pre-birth memories, I remember being communicated to that the purpose behind why we have a life is for soul learning, evolution, growth and to engage in our purpose. Some people call this a "life purpose" and others refer to this as the "divine mission." Six one, half a dozen the other. We all have many purposes and smaller purposes within those purposes. But in my mind, I also agree with everyone else when we say that we all also participate in the Divine Mission which has to do with truth, origin and creation.

I'll share a bit of the story of my pre-birth memory with you, as it pertains to purpose..

I remember being communicated to that I had a message to share and a mission to accomplish and that "mission" had to do with assisting others in realizing the purpose behind why we all exist in the first place. In other words, assisting others in realizing Truth, Origin and Creation. Leading the masses back to this truth which resides within origin and creation itself. In other words, G-d does exist and we have the ability to do great things in this world, and in the process of this we have - by His hand - the ability to create great change for the positive in this world as well, but we also must remember that G-d does exist and that is who created us in the first place, and that we must complete certain processes of receiving knowledge through experience and learning while here in this life (which can at times seem rather difficult and confusing) but that there's a great purpose behind doing so. That said, when something "bad" comes our way, we should remember that this "life" is extremely short by comparison and that everything happens for a reason and one of the main aspects is learning, soul evolution through that process of learning and growth. Therefore, we're to take that back with us. 

Kind of makes one wonder...

There's this old meme I saw years ago and it was of a very surprised looking teenage kid at a party full of wild drunk people having a good time. His eyes though were wide open and he looked a combination of shocked, frightened and enlightened all at the same time. The caption read, "...when you realize life is actually a one big lesson for your soul & eternity is forever." I wish I could find that because it would resonate here.

By the way, I apologize for so please forgive the terminology I choose in advance.

While I have a platform and many readers, most people shy away when I make any posts that mention things along those lines. The thing is, if I use words like "energy" versus the word "soul," you'll probably read on here like crazy. If I use the term, "divine mission" it's great but if I use the term "soul purpose," people become annoyed. It's just semantics...

If I refer to "Twin Flame," people are excited but if I use the phrase "intended soul match" then not so much. If I say, "Higher Power" it's perfectly acceptable but if I use the word, "G-d" then people become repulsed and flee. It's all about semantics and phrasing but it means the exact same thing.

Believe it or not, I even had someone make a comment on one of my posts on another site once criticizing that I'd failed to refer to G-d as a female because said reader just happened to be of a religion which "worshiped a female god" of some type. Her comment on my post was, "I agree that we all worship the same god under different names but why don't you refer to god as a female? My religion ___ believes ___ so you need to use the word they instead of he or she / him or her when you're talking about god in general terms." 


Hey, I am not critical of any religion and I do try to be inclusive in my writing, but seriously...come on now. It's semantics. She knew what (and who) I was talking about. That said, this is my site so I'll type and use phrasing as I see fit. But I digress...

Anyway, back to how life purposes and missions work.

What is our "life purpose" and why are we even here?

I'll quote from Chabad on what The Kabbalah says about purpose, as written by Nissan Dovid Dubov:

The Sages tell us that a human being is made of 248 limbs and 365 sinews. These correspond to the 248 positive commandments and the 365 negative commandments of the Torah. The word mitzvah in Aramaic means “a connection”. Thus, there are 613 ways of connecting with G–d. Man has the ability to connect his entire being with G–d. Upon achieving this task he creates an abode for G–d in this world, hence fulfilling the purpose of creation.

The worlds of the spiritual and the material are not in conflict. The ultimate purpose is that they be fused and the material permeated with the spiritual. The core of all mitzvah performance is to take the material creation and utilize it for a Divine purpose. This achieves a wonderful harmony both in the individual and in the world at large.

This theme is not relegated to the synagogue or moments of religious practice. Rather, it encompasses all times and places; wherever and whenever a person operates he is able to utilize the task at hand for its correct, Divine, purpose.

One person can change the world

One of the main distinguishing features in the creation of man is that man was created as a single being, unlike other species which were created in large numbers.

This indicates emphatically that one single individual has the capacity to bring the whole of creation to fulfillment, as was the case with the first man, Adam.

As mentioned above, no sooner was Adam created than he called upon and rallied all creatures in the world to recognize the sovereignty of the Creator with the cry, “Come, let us prostrate ourselves, let us bow down and kneel before G–d our Maker!” For it is only through “prostration” – self-abnegation – that a created being can attach itself to, and be united with, the Creator and thus attain fulfillment of the highest order.

The Rabbis teach us that Adam was the prototype and example for each and every individual to follow. “For this reason was man created single, in order to teach you that ‘one person is equivalent to an entire world.’ ”

This means that every Jew, indeed, every human being, regardless of time and place and personal status or religion has the fullest capacity (and also the duty) to rise and attain the highest degree of fulfillment and accomplish the same for creation as a whole.

Rosh Hashanah – the birthday of man

This idea is underlined by the fact that the Jewish New Year – Rosh Hashanah – celebrates the birthday of man, which took place on the sixth day of creation.

In the liturgy of Rosh Hashanah we find that it is called the “day of the beginning of Your works” (text of prayer for Rosh Hashanah). Why is it the “beginning of Your works” when, in fact, Rosh Hashanah corresponds to the sixth day of the creation?

The answer is given by the Rabbis: Inasmuch as man is the ultimate purpose and raison d’être of all domains of the universe and since, with the creation of man, the whole of creation was completed and fulfilled, man, in effect, embodies the entire creation as if, before him, nothing was created.

The order in the scale of all created things where inorganic substances exceed plants, and plants outnumber animals, and man is least of all, is based on consideration of quantity. However, when quality is considered, the order is reversed: inorganic matter, which has no signs of life and locomotion, is at the bottom of the scale; above it is the world of plants, endowed with growth but lacking the vitality and movement of animals; higher still is the animal kingdom which, since animals do not possess human intellect, is inferior to man – the highest of all creatures. For, although an animal has an intellect of its own, the animal intellect is not an end in itself but an instinct, whose function is to serve the natural needs of the animal. However, the human intellect – provided the person conducts himself as a human being and not as an animal – is mainly an end in itself. Furthermore, the human intellect attains its goal and fulfillment, not when it serves as an instrument for the gratification of physical needs, as in the case of animals, but, on the contrary, when all such natural functions as eating, drinking and the like, become servants of the intellect, in order that the person should be able to rise ever higher in intellectual and spiritual pursuits.

Yet this is not quite the true fulfillment of the human being. True fulfillment is achieved when the intellect leads him to the realization that there is something higher than intellect, so that the intellect surrenders itself completely to that ideal.

To put it more clearly, human fulfillment is attained when intellect recognizes that man, and with him the entire creation, must strive for and achieve acknowledgement of, and attachment to, G–d, the Creator of the Universe and Master of everything in it.

The power of the righteous is within you

The Sages describe what happened in the following way: At the time of creation the Shechinah – Divine Presence – rested on earth. After the sin of Adam the Shechinah removed itself from the earth to the first firmament (the Sages speak of the existence of seven firmaments i.e. spiritual levels), and after the sins of Cain and Abel, and the subsequent generation of Enosh, the Shechinah removed itself further to the second and third firmament etc., until the Shechinah was removed, through the sins of subsequent generations, to the seventh firmament. It was the righteous Abraham who, through his Divine service, returned the Shechinah by one level to the sixth firmament. His son Isaac and grandson Jacob, and thereafter subsequent generations of righteous people, returned the Shechinah further, until Moshe, the seventh generation from Abraham, returned the Divine Presence to this earth, when he built the Tabernacle in the wilderness and the Shechinah rested there.

One of the great teachings of the Baal Shem Tov, the founder of the chassidic movement, is that of an ongoing creative process. Divine creative energy is constantly pulsating through the creation, bringing it into being ex nihilo every single second. If G–d were to stop creating the world, even for an instant, it would revert to null and void, as before the creation. When the Sages talk about “removal of the Divine Presence” they are not suggesting that G–d literally removed Himself from the world – otherwise the world would cease to exist. Rather they are suggesting that sin creates an insensitivity to that Divine Presence. G–dliness is no longer manifest and felt by the creation. It is almost as though G–d is in exile from His world. This was the result of generations of sin and it was only through the efforts of the righteous that the world was again sensitized to the Divine Presence and became a fitting abode for His presence.

A dwelling for G–d

It was Abraham who initiated the process of return, bringing the Divine Presence from the seventh to the sixth firmament. He accomplished this by establishing a guesthouse in Beer Sheba and giving wayfarers food and drink. After they had eaten Abraham would ask them to say Grace. The Torah tells us, “And Abraham called there in the name of G–d.” The Sages comment, “do not read, ‘and he called’, but read, ‘and he made call,’” i.e. he encouraged others to call. Maimonides states that Abraham had such a powerful influence in his time that he managed to convert a good part of known civilisation to belief in monotheism.

G–d had promised Abraham that his descendants would serve a strange nation only for a certain time, after which they would be redeemed. When the time of redemption arrived G–d sent Moshe, a great-grandson of Levi, son of Jacob, to fulfil that task. Pharaoh, a self-proclaimed god, was systematically destroyed by the Ten Plagues. He and his magicians were forced to admit that the “finger of G–d” was at work. Finally the Jewish people left Egypt, a redemption from bondage which became the prototype for all future redemptions.

A dwelling within each person

Within the wording, “Make for Me a sanctuary, so that I may dwell among them”, lies a deeper meaning. Grammatically it should have stated, “so that I may dwell in it” yet it states, “so that I may dwell among them.” The Sages point out that the construction of the Tabernacle is a pointer for each and every person to make a dwelling place for the Divine Presence within themselves.

As mentioned previously, every person is infused with a Divine Soul. It is the task of the soul to make a Mishkan out of the body in which it resides by elevating all bodily functions to a Divine purpose.

In short, this means being able to connect every bodily function with G–d – and this is precisely the purpose of Torah and mitzvot. In the Torah, G–d instructs us how to connect every sphere of operation and function with G–d. For example, in terms of time, “six days you shall work and the seventh day you shall rest.” The function of Shabbat is to allow a person to withdraw from the mundane and focus on the spiritual for one day a week. This, in turn, creates a new perspective on the week to come. By simply dedicating one day a week to study and prayer, one elevates the entire week.

The rewards of the World to Come

The Talmud is replete with references to the World to Come. Maimonides describes it as a “world of souls”, a spiritual plane to which the soul returns after its sojourn in this world. The soul is to give an account of its lifetime and, subsequently, its merits and demerits are carefully weighed on the Divine scales. It is then rewarded for its good deeds and Torah learning. The reward takes the form of a revelation of G–d’s glory, “basking in the Divine light”. It may be necessary for the soul to be cleansed from its indulgences and iniquities and so it is sent to Gehinom, a spiritual purification depot, after which it ascends to Heaven. The Talmud uses the terms “Garden of Eden” or the “Heavenly Academy” to describe various levels and stages of this heavenly reward.

One should not serve G–d merely to receive this reward yet G–d does not remain in debt and will reward a person for all his good deeds. To this aim there is an “eye watching, an ear listening and a hand writing” all of a person’s actions in this world. An exact account is kept.

Yet, however great the rewards of the World to Come, they are not the ultimate purpose of creation. As stated above, the ultimate purpose is that G–d desired to have a dwelling in the lowest of all worlds, in this material and physical world.

The soul exists before its descent and returns to the heavenly realm in the afterlife. It is a “descent for the purpose of ascent,” the ascent being the fulfillment of the ultimate purpose in creation, the creation of a dwelling for G–d in this world.

A specific purpose

In addition, every soul has a specific purpose besides the general purpose of making an abode for G–d in this world.

The Baal Shem Tov said that a soul, in addition to keeping the Torah and mitzvot, may descend to this world and live for 70 or 80 years just to do a favor for another in the material or the spiritual realms.

How does one know one’s own specific purpose? How does one know which favor is the purpose of one’s soul? The answer is that everything happens by Divine Providence and if a person is presented with a certain opportunity, this is certainly sent from Above and should be treated as if it is the purpose of one’s soul’s descent.

Our Sages stated, “everything is from the hands of heaven except the fear of Heaven.” This means that whatever happens to a person is from Heaven. The particular time and place a person lives and his station in life, whether rich or poor etc., is decided from Above. A person’s only contribution is “the fear of Heaven” – his reaction in any given situation. We are all presented with unique opportunities and challenges and it is our lot in life to utilize them for the Divine purpose.

Our Sages stated further, “each and every soul was in the presence of His Divine Majesty before coming down to this earth”, and that, “the souls are sewn from under the Seat of Glory.” These sayings emphasize the essential nature of the soul, its holiness and purity, and how it is completely divorced from anything material and physical; the soul itself, by its very nature, is not subject to any material desires or temptations, which arise only from the physical body and “animal soul”.

Nevertheless, it was the Creator’s Will that the soul – which is truly a “part” of the Divine, should descend into the coarse, physical world and be confined within, and united with, a physical body for scores of years in a state which is diametrically opposed to its spiritual nature. All this for the purpose of a Divine mission which the soul has to perform to purify and spiritualize the physical body and its related physical environment, making this world an abode for the Divine Presence. This can be done only through a life of Torah and mitzvot.

When the soul fulfills this mission all the transient pain and suffering connected with the soul’s descent and life on this earth is not only justified, but infinitely outweighed, by the great reward and everlasting bliss which the soul enjoys thereafter.

A wasted opportunity

From the above one can easily appreciate the extent of the tragedy of disregarding the soul’s mission on earth. For, in doing so, one causes the soul to descend to this world virtually in vain, for one has not achieved its purpose. Even where there are brief moments of religious activity in the study of Torah and the practice of the mitzvot, it is sad to contemplate how often such activity is tainted by the lack of real enthusiasm and inner joy, without recognition that these are the activities which justify existence.

Apart from missing the vital point through failure to take advantage of the opportunity to fulfill G–d’s Will, thus forfeiting the eternal benefits to be derived therefrom, it is contrary to sound reason to choose that side of life which accentuates the enslavement and degradation of the soul while rejecting the good that is within it; namely, the great elevation that is to come from the soul’s descent.

**The proper thing to do is to make the most of the soul’s sojourn on earth and a life which is permeated by the Torah and mitzvot makes this possible.

We would do well to heed the advice of King Solomon, the wisest of all men, when he wrote at the end of the book of Ecclesiastes,

Ultimately, all is known; fear G–d, and observe His commandments; for this is the whole purpose of man.

In the words of our Sages, “I was created for the sole purpose of serving my Maker.”

Each person's and each soul's experience is unique to them

It would not be realistic to compare one person's divine mission to that of another. Each soul has specific purpose and mission. If you sit around waiting for something to just simply come and jump out at you, I ask you why? Why simply wait for opportunity to engage in your mission? Living and doing right daily will help you. You can always request and ask for guidance (He listens.) 

While MY mission may be something related to getting a message out as I described in the first paragraphs (if you've been with me this far, thank you for reading!) Your mission and purpose may be different from mine. However, the end result of all good will simply result in more good. 

People are very interested in the Twin Flame Divine Mission 

You are here for good reason and if you have come this far in reading, then you have a more clear understanding. The schools of thought surrounding the concept of the Twin Flames' Divine Mission are endless. Some believe it has to do with a number of aspects but for each, one's good works will be ultimately unique to them. This means in layman's terms that it will be specifically between you and G-d. I've spoken of this before as well: people are becoming way too caught-up on the label of Twin Flame in my opinion (just my personal thinking) and as a result, are becoming stagnated in connections that are not actually beneficial or positive for them, and when they do finally achieve the Union with their respective intended counterpart or Twin Flame or "mated soul" or whatever term you'd like ot use today, it's primarily relationship-focused and people are actually forgetting the purpose. 

Remember, the there is GREAT PURPOSE behind why we exist. But for many, it seems they forget the purpose and focus primarily on an emotional attachment. Remember, the romantic connection is merely a lovely gift from G-d and is a by product and should never be an obsession. 

I saw a question submitted just today on a website that I contribute through and it was phrased, "How can the Twin Flame relationship be healthy when it contains aspects of obsession and stalking?" I agree completely. Yes, emotional connections and attachments transpire but this question's wording clearly points out how people become WAY TOO OBSESSED (and I keep seeing much of this which is the reason for this post in the first place.) I won't play "armchair psychiatrist" here, but it seems that once someone finds their proverbial "other half," they somehow become completely obsessed with the terminology of Twin Flame. 

Twin Flame is not the definition of, "we're going to be together in a happy relationship for the balance of our lives if we can just get through this hard part," although this may very well be a wonderful by product.

I see far too many people reading into things and hearing what they want to hear, seeing what they want to see. They read something online which resonates and suddenly they believe they're a Twin Flame and "this must be it" so therefore they must for whatever reason, suffer through aspects of a relationship THEY THINK is Twin Flame. I've heard from people who have read things on the internet and have "self-diagnosed" themselves as being in a "Twin Flame" situation when it's anything but. I'm not The Creator, but I do know a bad situation when I see one and when someone is clearly unhappy in a situation, something needs to change. Just because something resonates with you on the internet does not mean that it's your situation. And, if you're suffering in that relationship, then why on earth are you entertaining it at all?

I've even had conversations with about a handful of people who I have spoken with in the past at which time I had told them clearly that it was okay to change their situation for that relationship was absolutely not for them, yet they have later said to me, "You said they were my Twin Flame but I'm not sure they're my Twin Flame at this point." Yet, as previously mentioned, I'd never told them they were a Twin Flame at all and yet SOMEHOW they managed to hear this. THIS IS HOW INTENSELY PEOPLE ARE HEARING WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR. 

People see synchronicity and think to themselves, "I've met my Twin Flame," based on searches on the internet! Please, please stop. I've written about this until I'm blue in the face and fingers. I'll say this one last time: Everyone has purpose. All connections we make with others have purpose, of course. However, just because you read something online that seems to resonate with your experiences does not necessarily make it so, so please stop putting yourself in situations that are painful because you "think" it must be somehow required. 

I've described Soul Purpose / Divine Mission here in this article. Everyone has purpose but people are pigeonholing themselves into situations trying to morph them into situations that they're not intended to be, based on a feeling or perceived connection. BELIEVE ME, IF THE ROMANTIC EXPERIENCE WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP IS INTENDED TO HAPPEN IT ABSOLUTELY WILL. IF YOU CAN FOCUS ON YOUR PURPOSE, YOUR MISSION, THIS WILL PULL YOU AWAY FROM ANY NEGATIVES OR ANY OBSESSIVE THINKING AND PUT YOU ONTO THE CORRECT PATH. WHEN ONE IS ON THE RIGHT PATH THEN THE LOVELY, INTENDED THINGS WILL HAPPEN FOR YOU. THIS INCLUDES...GUESS WHAT? YES, YOU GOT IT! 

If you have connected with the correct partner, then congratulations! I know already that many, many readers here have and this is always wonderful and what I absolutely adore seeing. What scares me is when people practice waiting or doing nothing productive for themselves, not engaging in mission, which can lead one to stagnation and as a result, confusion and sadness. You can take a long path to it or a short route. Start now and take the easier, more effortless shorter path to your happiness. 

Start today: Begin fresh and enjoy your life. Don't "borrow" worry or grief. Stop any "what-if" thinking. "What if I'm not going to meet my Twin Flame? What if my Twin Flame is talking to someone else right now? I need to look at my love's social media because what if they have received a new friend request from someone attractive?" I could go on like this forever...

When we expect something negative, guess what happens? Yes, along with a ton of worry, grief and confusion along with it. I see these "Twin Flame gurus" selling quickie downloads and books and what not...pushing thoughts of fear onto others of, "If I only buy ___ or download ___ or read ___ then I'll get my Twin Flame! If I don't then I won't get my Twin Flame!" Oh my, the grief and self-limiting beliefs those folks are selling. While I'm a spiritual counselor and I work with relationships, I'm the 1st person to tell you that no one needs a quickie guide. As I have said in countless other posts, if such were real, then I'd have absolutely placed one here on my website. You don't need anyone or anything but YOU. G-d put a certain intuitive, sort of gut instinct within all of us and if your gut tells you that you are headed in the wrong direction (or the right one) follow your guidance. Engage in your mission, your purpose. And above all else, live your life to fulfillment. You'll see exactly what I mean when you do.

Anyway, I hope this helps you! I wish you many blessings. xoxo

1 comment

Agnes Maria

Ah, again, so good, so good. I love your responses to these questions, Helena, as does my fiancée. Thank you so much.

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